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I don't think anyone should use social media with an engagement algorithm, no matter what age

I'd like the age raised fron 16 to 75, I'm 58.

Nobody should use today's social media

Yes it's a cancerous plague on society. It creates a false sense on identity and want. Young peoples minds are constantly bombarded by people telling them how they should think, feel and look

Australia did it somewhat right by banning minors until they are 16. However I feel this may create a stronger desire for some to join much like teens drinking and smoking bud cause it's forbidden. At 16 you'll only create a stronger desire to join. As such I feel like it should be pushed back to 20, you're no longer a teen and as a young adult the temptation to join and let your mind be swayed by bull shit may be less prevalent

All prohibitions do is create a space where kids are doing it, but without any discussion about the risks. It's the abstainance only education model, or the "war on drugs" model.

It doesn't work, especially when the "authorities" are doing it anyway, and they're not even quiet about it.

There is no real need to regulate kids on devices ... leave that up to the parents to figure out.

What we need is to regulate every major corporately owned social media company. Regulate and control them like they do for newspapers, magazines or television. Put them under complete regulatory control across the board so that we can regain some normalcy in public perception of reality and politics everywhere.

It's a pipe dream I know ... but in the meantime, no matter what anyone says or does ... if social media companies are not regulated, everything and everyone is going to hell in a hand basket.

Wow. These comments are really interesting. And they make me feel old.

A lot of them revolve around some version of the old trope of “everyone else is doing it” regarding access which I refuse to believe even the younger people on here think is a legit argument. Seriously. There’s also no shortage of comments that reinforce the idea that SM is kindof an addiction with the lengths some suggest be gone to for access or that access is some kind of right or necessity.

Generations past got by fine without all the tech and modern versions of SM, so we can dispose of all the drama surrounding any negative effects of limiting access. That’s strictly a social problem of haves/have nots. Being of an age to have kids myself and friends with kids I see all levels of social media access for both kids and adults. For some, it’s pretty much an addiction. They can’t keep their faces out of their phones watching tiktoks, shorts, snaps, or whatever. Their day revolves around that content.

A couple friends’ kids went down the rabbit hole and have had unfettered access to the internet for years. They all want their own channels, to be YT creators, buy shit like Stanley mugs, and do all the stuff they saw online, and all while being under 18. There have already been problems with inappropriate images and texts, adults online, and law enforcement. It’s a mess. Probably the more extreme end of things.

Others just stare at their phone all the time. Put it down for a minute, pick it right back up.

Our kids, who do have some social media access, complain that hanging out with their friends with more access to SM can often devolve into people just staring at their phones. Nobody wants to do anything else except watch “brain rot.” Their words, not mine. Seems to be a growing awareness among zoomers and later about SM and some of the problems with it. We have conversations (not us talking AT them) about all the stuff online, SM, etc. and the good/bad about it all.

Anyway, overall SM is a net negative. It seems to be more of a contradiction in terms, “social” media prevents actual social interaction with real people. The making of regulations limiting access is going to be incredibly difficult to effectively apply. Anyone who has tried to take an ipad away from a 4 year old is going to know that trying to do the same to kids and teens thanks to new laws is going to be a pain in the ass. I think most will attempt to work around it, which is disappointing in a lot of ways because parents don’t want to do the hard things - and it’s gonna be really hard seeing as the cat’s been out of the bag for a long time.

I can't remember which article I was reading, probably one on Lemmy, but it said that we know social media algorithms are bad for people and their mental and physical health, that they are divisive, drive extremism, and just in general are not safe for society.

Drugs are regulated to ensure they are safe, so why aren't social media algorithms regulated the same way? Politicians not understanding the technical details of algorithms is not an excuse - politicians also don't understand the technical details of drugs, so they have a process involving experts that ensures they are safe.

I think I'm on the side of that article. Social media algorithms are demonstrably unsafe in a range of ways, and it's not just for under 16s. So I think we should be regulating the algorithms, requiring companies wishing to use them to prove they are safe before they do so. You could pre-approve certain basic ones (rank by date, rank by upvotes minus downvotes with time decay like lemmy, etc). You could issue patents to them like we do with drugs. But all in all, I think I am on the side of fixing the problem rather than pretending to care in the name of saving the kids.

Controversial opinion:

In the future we are going to look back on seeing children use iPads that directly connect them to the most sophisticated engagement and manipulation algorithms ever as something as horrid as a child smoking a cigarette, or doing any other drug

Now obviously this is an issue, but many of the suggested solutions are lacking.

Remember: the phones in our pocket are turing complete, any software solution can be undone by another software solution

Hardware flaws baked into chipsets will be inevitably exploited by the worst of humanity

What we need is a LEGAL framework to this issue

We need to see that allowing a full 5g 2.5ghZ portal to the unknown is simply absolutely harmful for a child to get there hands on without parental or educational supervision

I suspect it really should work like regulating a drug, allow more and more unsupervised compute and networking as the child ages

That way kids can still have dumb phones for basic safety and comms.

I suspect laws will be applied like alcohol within the home, to allow for family owned game systems and such

But lapses that lead to actual demonstrated harm such as mental illness leading to bodily harm or violence due to radicalization need to be treated as if a parent just fed their child alcohol without care. Or at least enabled them to it if it’s evident that they didn’t even try

Straight up it’s also a cultural shift 13-16 yr olds gaming at home under parental guidance, but not being bought significant personal compute since it would not be sold to them or for the purpose of giving to them

Usage in school where they get education on information technology and the harms and good it can do all fine and good , but seeing babies with iPads at the mall seen as badly as letting them smoke (and the secondhand smoke from all the brainrot leading to brainrotted adult)

I think kids using regular social media is a result of there being no more sites for kids.

When I was a terminally online unloved kid told to go away whenever I breathed in my family's presence, I wasn't browsing Facebook and Twitter. I was playing on KOL, GirlSense, Nicktropolis, and games I pirated. I was creative so I also pirated art, movie, and game making software and sunk hours into hobbies. Back on the internet, I'd also play flash games and pirate TV shows and movies.

The sites we have today are aimed at toddlers. Sites for teens are just gone now. But does it even matter? Teenagers are treated like they're 18 the minute they're 13. It's shameful to like cartoons and videos games at 13. It's shameful to not have a job and live alone at 13. You're supposed to grind anti aging care, have a job, speedrun school, have children, have a car, and be rich at that time. Teens bully other teens for being teens. Society is ruined beyond repair. Banning children from using the internet will only breed more tech savvy minors who will still use the internet. It's way too late.

Penalize companies for marketing to kids. No ad money, no benefit.

Fine both the parent and the social media company for every offense.

In real terms, I have no idea if this is a good move or a bad one. We'll know more in five years once the Aussie nerds can publish on the effects. I can't think of a compelling reason not to try it though.

Social media use is bad for everyone. Tech companies have spent billions of dollars refining and optimizing their platforms to maximize engagement and usage at the expense of all other considerations.

I've been researching the mental health effects of social media for an unrelated project I am working on. From an incomplete read of the research, social media use has a strong correlation with mental health issues. I haven't encountered anything peer reviewed that proposes a specific relationship between the two, but my personal (somewhat well informed) guess is that someone will find a link eventually. That's just where the research I've read seems to be headed.

I'd guess they probably have a symbiotic relationship. (Certain kinds of) Mentally ill folks use social media more than others, why or if that is anything more than a red herring is still to be determined, but I have read coverage of other research that suggests that social media might be destroying attention spans (though I haven't read that research myself yet).

Getting the political system involved in this effort is probably undesirable simply because elected officials seem to have entirely abandoned any pretense of using science to inform policy and are basically puppets for the oligarchy. Voting against the interests of their donors is unlikely.

We can't even keep knives out of prisons. How tf are we supposed to keep kids off the Internet?

The biggest reason why not is that it requires the implementation of centralized tracking systems for everyone to confirm ID for accessing these services, which is a privacy nightmare and takes way too much agency away from individuals. If Reddit or something bans me for a stupid reason or because their broad brush modbots malfunctioned, I should be able to evade that ban with enough care and effort, and the government shouldn't help them make sure I can't. I should also have the ability to use social media pseudonymously without being subject to corporate tracking.

The other reason, of course, is that banning children from social media cuts them off from participating in society or having any sort of a public voice. That's fucked up too.

Me: there should be an agency like the FDA that brands news and other media with veracity labels according to guidelines we as voters agree on to prevent fake news and misinformation

Them: YOU CAN'T BECAUSE OF FREE SPEECH DIE HEATHEN DIE

Me: ok what about banning kids from social media?

Them: that's fine :)

Hypocrites.

Absolutely not. Anything you put in is likely going to have privacy issues for both adults and children, and you forget how smart children are. I know we had firewalls and all kinds of shit when I was in school, and I was the person who taught everybody else how to bypass them in like five minutes. There is not a filter in the world you can put up that are going to keep children from the content that they actually want to look at.

I think kids should be aborted

I don't think that kids should be banned from social media. Instead they should be taught how to handle it in an individually and socially healthy way. Namely:

• how to spot misinformation
• how to spot manipulation
• how to protect yourself online
• how to engage constructively with other people
• etc.

This could be taught by parents, school, or even their own peers. But I think that all three should play a role.

It doesn't matter what you think. Kids will do what they want to do and that's that, so everything else is a question of how much time and money and posturing people want to do.

I don't think a ban is coming at the issue from the right angle. Social media misuse is fundamentally a problem of addiction, and we have a checkered past of causing harm when banning things. For a historical analogue, look at the Prohibition era of the United States.

Ultimately, bans for these things don't work because people will get around it anyway. And that's exactly when dangerous things happen. Using the Prohibition example again, people poisoned themselves trying to make illegal hooch because they were determined to drink anyway.

I think education is the answer. And I mean honestly, isn't education always the answer? But you've got to educate your kids about the content they're using. We've got to educate the parents about the dangerousness of unlimited access to screens. If people don't understand the danger, then they don't recognize the danger, and suddenly they've stumbled on danger.

I'm sure everyone has heard a story about a straight-laced kid who grew up with strict parents, and then at the first opportunity to party in college goes on a bender to destroy their life. Those kids' parents really did them a disservice by not preparing them for reality. If their only education on drugs and alcohol is "don't do them," then the child isn't really aware of the risks. They just see that everyone else is doing them and having fun, and then they go off the deep end before they realize how bad things are getting.

Social media's the same thing. The day your kid turns seventeen they'll have every chance to succumb to brainrot on their own volition. Without being informed of how or why that happens, there's nothing stopping someone from falling into any internet rabbithole.

I prohibit my kids from social media. I encourage other patents to do the same.

IMO, even if it's "banned"/"prohibited" or whatever, kids will do whatever they have to do to enable them to do what they want to do. If they want to use social media, then they'll lie, cheat or otherwise manipulate the system into getting access.

With all that being said, maybe regulate social media for kids so that adults don't have enough access to prey on them. Beyond that, as long as they're not posting gore, or nudes or something equally inappropriate, let them do what they want.

Patents would be so familiar with this conundrum. Eventually you need to let your kids learn their own lessons and do as they wish. Your choice is whether you want to support your kid in what they want to do, or if you're going to try to impose rules on them, which has a nontrivial chance of alienating them, and they tell you nothing about their decisions, and won't come to you for help or guidance when things get rough.

As a son who was repeatedly alienated and is now estranged, I lived on the other side of such a situation. My story is my own, and I won't assume anyone else's situation.

If you're facing this decision as a parent, please be understanding and accepting of what your child decides, then stand by in case things go sideways. If your child in that scenario, I'm so very sorry for what's happening, and how these things inevitably end. Take care of yourself.

I don't think kids should be barred from social media, since at its core, social media is just people talking and sharing things with each other.

The problem is not with the medium or generally who is using it, it's with the rate of consumption, poor parenting and poor moderation.

I also think it is an even larger problem to enforce in the first place, since it will destroy one of the good things about the Internet: anonymity. Seeing as the only way to truly enforce an age restriction is to require ID to be given to verify a user's identity. I'm not as super hardcore about my privacy like some parts of Lemmy are, but this is one thing I absolutely do not want to see happen.

Not just social media, they shouldn't have access to smart phones either, not until a minimum age. 13/15/16, something like that.

Make them learn to figure things out on their own.

Email is social media. Zoom is social media. Suicide hotlines are social media. Kids absolutely need social media. Communication is a human right. Taking away the right to communicate means isolating children from support. How's this supposed to go for depressed, neurodivergent, or queer kids. This law gives abusive parents more control over their victims.

No as a Teenager.

I don't think the government should be banning kids from using certain parts of the internet because of perceived harm. Kids need to explore the internet for themselves in order to learn first-hand about the dangers. I mean, the same argument for social media can be applied for everything on the internet. Search engine results are full of scams, are be banning search engines too? News sites are full of misleading information, lets ban news sites? So the only source of information is now from schools who can also be biased and in some places are just regurgitating government propaganda. In red states, schools are constantly telling LGBT+ kids that they are commiting "sins" and they are "mentally ill", and they might have very conservative parents with no sympathy. Are we really gonna stop kids from going online and seek support? If kids can't even be allowed to explore the digital world, how are we also allowing them to explore the physical world, where there are physical dangers?

In an ideal scenario, kids should be allowed to freely explore the internet, but should have parents that they trust to talk to in case they face any danger or harassment, so the parents can help them deal with it.

Eventually, kids are gonna grow up, and a kid with zero online experience their entire life suddenly gaining free access to all of the internet is a recipe for disaster.

Its like not teaching kids sex ed, then when they get old enough, they'll end up having unprotected sex.

Edit: Not to mention, social media ban is not very enforcible. Even in China, an authoritarian regime, is unable to stop kids from gaming, they just steal their grandparents IDs and play anyways. Do y'all really want a democratic country to suspend civil rights and start privacy intrusions?

We can't regulate half a dozen corporations, prohibiting algorithmic feed and targeted ads, so we will ban millions from using the apps with these features.