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[–] [email protected] 29 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (4 children)

Putting my kitty down this afternoon. Almost made it to 20. Very sad. On Xanax though.

Edit: thank you everyone. He’s gone now. We had an at-home service put him down. He went incredibly peacefully, purring loudly as the first injection went in.

We’re about to drive him to his brother’s grave (who died five years ago) and bury him there so they can forever snuggle.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago

So sorry for your loss 😞

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago

It sounds like you gave your kitty a long, love-filled life. I’m sorry they can’t be with you longer.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Thanks for giving your kitty as good a life as you could. Don't let the end cloud your vision from the good times.

If/when you're ready, there are more lost souls to save out there. I wish I could have cats myself, but I am not stable enough to house them. Maybe some day I will foster, but even that is probably to much for me to handle.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Thank you for your kind words. He lived an incredible life. Working is going to be a lot more lonely without him constantly bothering me to snuggle with me all day.

When his brother died five years ago, he was so lonely… so we adopted two baby kittens so he could be their mum. He took to them immediately, cuddling and playing and loving them. I think that might have extended his life. They’re a little confused right now with him not moving, but we didn’t let him see his brother after he died, which I think was a mistake.

About to go drive to his brother’s grave to bury him with his brother so they can snuggle eternally.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

That's so sad...

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Usually with my fingers, or at least generally with my skin.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I just watched that yesterday for the 97th time.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

Every day I go to all my part time jobs, and they take so much from me that I cannot recover what I've lost before the beginning of my next day of shifts.

Every day, I lose more and more of me. Until one day, there will be nothing left and I will quit one or all of my jobs and be unable to afford housing, and become homeless (again).

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Do you live in America ? I've heard stories like this from Americans ... I hope it goes well with you anyway

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago

I wish I could work out like I used to when I was unemployed. I know it would give me more energy, but there is nothing left at the end of the day to invest into me and my health.

Whatever, who wants to live a long life anyways? Just more rent payments, more scammers, more assholes in my life.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Hope you get better soon...

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 months ago (2 children)

So excited and so overwhelmed.

We're moving from the US to Denmark soon. We just had a hurricane destroy our city. We are fine, thankfully, but our city is in bad shape. I also just had a decently big surgery a few weeks ago and my doctor's office is gone, so in the midst of all this I have to find a doctor. Just coincidental timing on all of it.

But it's net positive. I look forward to the future more than I dread the bad stuff.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Like my life has been stolen from me. I am left with nothing.

Isn't having cancer alone ba enough?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Doin alright. Tired from the work week, happy for the weekend!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

That's good to know.... I have the same feelings whenever I go back home from college... like college is good but nothing is cozier or nicer than being able to rest after a busy day

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Doing great! πŸ˜ƒ Currently sitting at my desk eating chocolate... 🍫

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

That's nice , I have pomegranate in the fridge and I was planning to eat it

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

We all deserve to thrive, not just survive. Glad to hear you are doing well. Take care.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Sad, sometimes, and a little lonely most of the time. Been through a rough breakup this year. But getting better all the time! Hope you're well!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

Last night I had a mild panic attack for no reason. I think it might have been induced by a mixture of beer and sugar, a combination I don't do very often.

I've just come out of a long term relationship with someone I thought I would have kids with. She was the best thing that ever happened to me, but somehow that wasn't enough for me and I wanted out. I still have no idea if I did the right thing, but at least we left as friends who care deeply for each other. The separation was slow and excrutiating but I think we're both on the road to healing.

I used to think that if two people love each other, that was enough, but I've come to realize than I wanted more than just love, I wanted to feel less lonely in my head, and a severe language barrier was preventing that from happening. With time, we might have gotten there, but with time, I also may have grown to resent her, and so that's why I ended it. I banked on my pessimism instead of my optimism.

Time heals all, and I guess we've just got to tread water until that time comes. Sorry for the word vomit above, your post apparently struck a chord with me

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Currently very silly, im wearing a cute skirt :3

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

It's been a really long time since I bought / wore a skirt or a dress or even makeup... shame on me really

[–] Trollivier 6 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Much better than the pervious couple weeks. It's refreshing! Depression sucks.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Since the last bout with COVID and subsequent bronchitis, I'm always exhausted and my lungs seem to hate me. It's slowly improving by the day but that's the worst bout of COVID I've had.

Fully vaxxed, other than the recent one for obvious reason

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Hope you get better soon...

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

I too suffer from long covid. I remember a time before when I didn't constantly cough all day. Good times...

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I currently feel like my nervous system is vibrating having just got out of the gym after preworkout

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Excited to go buy a bunch of native plants for the local park :)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

That's awesome

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Subject-ive

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (3 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I like creepy things but this scared me a little bit....

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

14 years ago. Man they were hard years. Here's to the even worse years that are still to come.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Every day is some variation on shitty.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

It's the fifth cold I got in a row I feel angry

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I do not understand the question

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

Use a translator then

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

On Tuesday I had a panic attack when I got in to work at 9am. It didn't last long, only about 15-20 minutes, but I still don't feel quite right even now. That's usually the case with my panic attacks, it takes a while for me to reset afterwards. Sometimes weeks.

Right now I have this tense feeling in my head, which causes my jaw to tighten up and get an impulsive twitch. Usually seems to happen when I'm feeling anxiety. I have an urge to chew on something soft.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

With my nerves.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (3 children)

Bored. I'm out on my anniversary tradition, which is going apple picking.. Except my other half immediately rolled out the picnic blanket and has been sleeping on me for the past hour.

It's sad to think of how the dynamics have changed over the past 10 years between us. It's almost like the brain hamster wheels have all fallen apart and what's left are only the most basic of human functions. It's days like today I wish my country had any kind of worthwhile mental health care.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Like Peter Frampton

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