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Umm. You can meet people anywhere. Hobbies are a good example. I have a scuba club, a pinball league, golf buddies, work buddies, etc. We have legit hung out a lot with people we met at the dog park. It’s not as tough as I thought once you get out there and do stuff. I met my wife on a dating app many years ago. The apps now are so much better. I’ll forever be curious what it would have been like to date people now. It sounds like you can essentially set a beacon saying you just want some ass. When I was online dating, it was not the norm and it was all damaged goods.
You ever hear about the book Bowling Alone? Or see the statistics on people who have little-to-no friends? Time and money (and because of both, transportation) are probably the most common issues. Also a whole range of other situational/personal issues, most of which probably aren't really solved just by existing near unknown people.
Also definitely does not seem like online dating is "better" just because it has more people.
I don't know if online dating is better now. Yes there are a lot more people on the apps but the apps have the worst business model and people looking for partners are often window shopping, have outrageous standards, and or are very "transactional".
I'm sure if you're very attractive or wealthy it can work out or if you're a woman (but then you get bombarded with literally every dude). But it's kinda tough for most dudes.
I do recognize that dating IRL can be like that too but I feel like dating apps can exacerbate the negative aspects of finding a partner.
I've met some people through online dating but the people I've met organically have generally been a better connection. Also some people do not look like their photo or act very different from their texting persona.