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Adults , how do you deal with other professionals (self.adhd)

submitted 1 year ago by Kirth to c/[email protected]

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Hi, I’m 46 years old and have had a diagnosis since childhood ( was call add then). And without getting to much into it have had many challenges throughout my life. I’m in a good place now where my own Strahles coupled with therapy and medication help me manage things. Up until very recently i felt like this was something to overcome with willpower but now I’m more like this is a storm I just need to ride along with an do my best. I work in software development and in my current job I’m ramping up to take on a lot more responsibilities and leadership. I’ll be dealing with people alot more as a result and I basically am looking for advice on what to do in those moments when I recognize I’m being too “much” without just having to explain that I’m neurodivergent or that I have ADHD. i know I can meet the expectations set in front of me i’m just looking to see how to smooth over the rough patches.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I will usually just acknowledge it without giving an explanation. People will almost always accept that. Examples.

Oh I think I just got carried away there. Let's take a step back. Do you have any questions?

Hey I think I got a bit too excited about the project for a sec. I hope that wasn't too much.

It's usually fine and takes the awkwardness out of the situation if there was any. And it shows people you realized what was going on. That's usually all they need to hear. No apology and no justifications or explanations needed. I found those would often just make it worse rather than better. Just be brief and move on. The longer you stay in the topic of an awkward situation the more it will stay awkward.

[–] Kirth 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yea I do tend to struggle with meta analysis in the moment.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Oh for sure. It can be tough to zoom out and see what is going on and what you are doing while in the midst of things. I struggle with this all the time. The advice I gave is what I do when I do it right. Doesn't mean I get it right all that often. But I'm getting better and I keep practicing.