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As a shut in with social anxiety and very introverted I'm wondering how to find friends now that I got better. Basically starting from zero since I know nobody in my city so I'm wondering if someone has some experience with finding friends as lonely anxious introvert and just how other people find friends.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 days ago (1 children)

As a shut in with social anxiety and very introverted

As someone who is similar, my advice is this. Get yourself one friend who is the exact opposite. If they care about you, they'll basically force you to attend social functions and stuff with them, and that will put you into a situation to get more comfortable with more people. Their friends become your friends.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

This would be great, now just to find some extrovert that would adopt me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

That's the tricky part. School or work are the usual avenues. There's also dating. I ended up marrying my extrovert.