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Iโve seen you struggling with existential questions a lot here. Are you going to therapy?
There are so many people who deserve it more, now why would I block them from receiving help, so I could be an even bigger burdensome waste of resources? Bruh, come on. My mother literally took food from a food bank that she didn't need, made each family member (except me because I'd escape) do it and take 4 times the amount alotted to each household, to just NOT use. Literally wasting resources that someone in need could use. Why would I do that myself?
I'm just saying if your life was ruined at the start then it's ruined forever, either continue living a ruined life or give up.
Hatte to be mister smarty-pants here, but empirically if your life was ruined from the start, your chances of recovery through therapy are actually much higher then for someone who ruined it himself/got Ill later on in life.
The thing is: finding therapy that works for you is a process on its own. You will likely have to try a lot of them to find a good one who has free slots. But you will find one eventually and if you have it does help!
Just one word of caution: go to to ones who actually have a Dr./major/magister in psychology and are registered doctors.
I hope you life in a country with good universal healthcare, if so you can just go to a therapist (they offer single sittings for cases like that) and discuss with him what kind of therapy could work for you and what the next address can be.
I am someone who is not religious and believes everyone should have a free decision if they want to live or not, but my galeart says: man, don't give yourself up, especially not because of damage inflicted on you by others. All the best from germany
You have all the right to claim a spot in society and use the resources it offers you. It is not wasted! You can turn things around if you really try. I would really urge you to seek out therapy.
You sure you don't need that therapy more? That sounds exactly like someone who could use a therapy.
That's simply not true as proven countless times.
Maybe therapy can't help you. Statistically speaking, it most likely can. If you try and don't succeed, you can at least tell yourself you tried.
Yeah so I should take food from a food bank because I don't feel like paying for it, and that's completely fair to the homeless people. And I tried for my whole life to cut ties and I'm still stuck. Everyone else got to be kids during childhood, and I was trying to make money online to hopefully move out at 16 or 18. Still never got out.
No, you shouldn't do it because you don't feel like paying, I never said that. But if it would help you move out from your toxic family, go for it. I'm not just talking out of my ass, I've lived through some shit of my own when I was a kid. Therapy helps and that's from personal experience.