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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (12 children)

Would you cut out your own family members over voting choices?

Edit: not sure why am I getting downvoted, I'm genuinely curious, not a suggestive question

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 month ago (1 children)

As a queer person I don't feel safe around people who support killing queer people. So obviously yes.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I have many conservative family members who, misguided as they are, would be vehemently opposed to killing queer people.

Remember the bell curve. Most people are not the extremes.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 4 weeks ago

If you're at a table with 11 people and a Nazi, you're at a table with twelve Nazis.

Most people aren't the extremes, sure. But if they refuse to denounce the extremists, they create space for the extremists viewpoints to survive and gain traction and acceptance on a broader scale.

So, no, even though I know most of my family would be against outright killing me, I also know they support and vote for people who are in favor of killing me. So no, I do not feel safe around them. How do I know if any of them hold extremist viewpoints before it's too late? If they don't denounce it, they're every bit as culpable.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 weeks ago

And they wear some kind of patch or mark on their clothes so you know which are the safe ones?

Remember the bell curve. The extremes are all that we're concerned with.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 weeks ago

I hope by conservatives they meant Republicans (the MAGA cult of fascists and deranged lunatics). We'll see if there are enough conservatives that are "vehemently opposed" to all of this soon enough. The Harris team definitely thinks so, for what it's worth.

The people that still insist on voting for Trump, for possibly the third time, after a decade of this madness... can't blame anyone for losing patience and avoiding them. It's tragic, but the cult is real and has detached people from reality.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 month ago

Absolutely. These aren't just "differences of opinion" as conservatives would pretend. Jews, gays and intellectuals didn't just have "differences of opinion" with nazis in Weimar Germany.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago

Yes, absolutely, and I think anyone who says otherwise is a liar, given shitty enough candidates in an election

[–] [email protected] 16 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

I stopped talking to my grandparents not strictly because of their vote but because every single conversation turned into them screaming and ranting about the black/asian/mexican/etc menace, and saying anything in disagreement got you screamed at or sometimes threatened with violence. we could be pleasantly chatting about the wildlife in their backyard and then suddenly it's all about how the 'n----rs' are ruining the country and we need to bring lynching back. these same people will loudly say they aren't racist, somehow. they couldn't even behave themselves in public and would talk like this at restaurants in full hearing of anyone around!

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 month ago

Not over John McCain or Mitt Romney, but over cunty fatson? Yeah obviously. No nazis is a pretty easy life rule to agree on.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Tough question, but you spend though time online and you hear stories of abuse from Trump parents and people ghosting them. It's not so much about the voting choices though, but who those people are--- which of course is correlated.

That said, you shouldn't think in absolutes. I certainly quarantine family to once-a-year if they're terrible, if even that. It's not as direct as making a pact to never see them, you just avoid unpleasant people. That just happens to be Trump supporters lately since he appeals to the worst kind of people, but before that it was my folks like my grandpa who called Obama the n word and kicked my dad out at 15.

That make sense?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Yeah, that makes sense in a normal, not batshit insane world. But I view this election as different, as we are talking about overt fascism being on the ballot (and the race is neck and neck).

When it comes to fighting against fascism, you must think in absolutes. This ideology is cancerous, and it must be completely eliminated in order to prevent the incalculable suffering and death that it promises.

Sorry if that hurts people's feelings.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I think it makea sense and gives a fuller perspective on this. To me the key words are unpleasant people. I was thinking to make the tradeoff of suffering through listening to their opinions on matters to help arm myself (figuratively, FBI) when the next discussion opportunity comes up (or argument). I frankly don't know if that's effective, to be an opposing voice in their lives. And just to clarify this is aimed at misguided family members, not the ones that are outright unpleasant

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

To be fair, I do the same thing- arm myself (figuratively!). If you have the emotional and mental bandwidth to deal with them, flexing those debate muscles is a great idea. But, life is hard and if you don't have that bandwidth, they aren't your problem.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 weeks ago
[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 weeks ago

Way ahead of you, as I cut them from my life years ago for being shit human beings. I have much higher standards than the average politician though.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 weeks ago

Not over the voting choices but the choice at that point is a symptom of their view on life based on the political values of the party they voted for, you don't vote before you embody at least in some form the values of said party.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

I haven't yet, but I'm prepared to if he wins and they continue to support him as he starts doing the overtly fascist shit that he's said he will do.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

It really depends.

I'm in Australia so while I detest our conservative party leader (not presently prime minister but probably one day), he's not really as abhorrent as Trump.

If someone very close to me who I care about quietly mentioned that they voted for someone as awful as Trump, that wouldn't be immediate irrevocable dismissable from my "inner circle", but it would certainly change how I thought of them.

Perhaps oddly, it would be a bit like someone saying they believed vaccines were harmful or that the earth is flat. They're not stupid (necessarily), but there's some complex and concerning psychological stuff going on.