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[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (6 children)

Where did they take it to an individual sense? You're being a "pickme" and arguing for respectability politics. I vehemently disagree that trans people need to make ourselves and our rights palatable to non-queer folks.

[–] Sethayy -2 points 3 months ago (5 children)

Pickme to me means someone that always tries to steal the spotlight, an individual (though I'm not too up to date on my buzzwords admittedly).

I also agree trans people don't need to cater to others, but also we don't need to be dicks cause yeah that's just gonna enforce peoples bias' - leave that shit to reddit/twitter.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

Yes, and as it applies to talking about respectability politics, it refers to someone who goes out of their way to make themselves palatable to non-queer people for the purposes of being "one of the good ones".

And you're still doing it with this "leave that shit" line. Like, I don't go out of my way to be a dick to folks that are genuinely curious and want to learn more. But someone who waltzes into a space that's for trans people and runs their mouth? No, I will not be polite to them. Telling me I should has the same energy as an old man telling a woman to "smile more". So, please kindly f*ck off.

[–] Sethayy -1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I feel you have a lot of previous assumptions about my viewpoint, and are more angry at your construction of me than what I'm actually saying

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

...leave that shit to reddit/twitter.

No, no I'm upset at what you're saying and it's implications. There honestly isn't much I despise more than queer people telling other queer people how to react to cishet people's aggressions. I personally find it more insidious than the aggressions themselves.

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