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which one do you prefer? having kids or no kids? and why?? (lemmy.world)

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

I think that deciding not to have kids is not a selfish act. Having kids just to have a fallback when old and frail on the other hand side is very much so.

[–] imaqtpie 5 points 5 months ago

I agree, I don't think not having kids has anything to do with being selfish.

But I guess what they meant to say is just that having kids is hard. A lot of times, people become more selfless and less focused on their own wants and needs after they become parents.

Of course, some people don't actually become more selfless or responsible, and instead they just become bad, narcissistic parents. But the choice to have kids is associated with the choice to be a responsible adult and work for the benefit of others, at least in theory.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

That argument makes sense. Though I see it more from choosing to prioritize yourself and own self interests over having children and sharing a life with them as selfish too. I guess we're all selfish one way or another.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

Right, I get what you mean, and I agree. No matter how you put it, nothing is ever entirely selfless.