Help Others

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The Lemmy community for helping others and seeking help.

We value kindness: Actions or speech intended to help others.

Formal rules are in the works, but please use common sense (no politics or other unhinged nonsense). The rules will be as lenient as possible to avoid unnecessary censorship and minimize mod power trips.

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If there's a post you want to see, comment it here!

Feedback is encouraged. I welcome other views and want to build a community ran by the people.

I have a huge to-do list of several ideas to post here. It would be easier for me to prioritize them if you requested something you need this week, or something you wish existed that would've helped you recently.

It would also help others know what posts to create, especially if they have specialized knowledge.

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This is a new community in the works.

I'll be creating rules on post formatting soon.

Until then, feel free to post anything you need help for or are offering to help with.

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1. Explore different interests before focusing on one.

  • Correct: Trying chess, trying basketball, taking an open online computer science course, cooking something new, trying tennis, learn how to draw your first digital art, learn the basics of competitive Street Fighter, attempt your first speedrun of a Trauma Center game, etc.
  • Wrong: Deciding you want to be a chess grandmaster WITHOUT exploring anything else first.
  • Research: https://characterlab.org/tips-of-the-week/sample-then-specialize/

2. Choose your Ultimate Goal in Life™.

  • Correct: After exploring several interests, you discover that you are persistently passionate about becoming a content creator.
  • Wrong: Graduating college (which is a great goal, but one that leads to your top-level goal).
  • Wrong: Getting 1 million Twitch subscribers (this might be an 'end goal', but your ultimate goal should be a journey, not a destination).
  • Research: https://youtu.be/NBgBy4vP_QE
  • More Research: https://characterlab.org/tips-of-the-week/step-by-step/

3. WOOP your life goal.

  • Video Guide: https://vimeo.com/262725813
  • Wish: What you want. (Your life goal.)
  • Outcome: Vivid details of the ideal outcome.
  • Obstacle: One (1) inner obstacle, something within your control, that is most likely to impede you from your goal. (e.g. Procrastination.)
  • Plan: If (Obstacle), then I will (Action). For example: If I feel like procrastinating, then I will shut off my phone and use the StayFocused browser extension to block out all irrelevant websites (YouTube, etc.) for the next hour.
  • Research: https://woopmylife.org/en/science

4. Use 'Expert Practice' to get good.

Video Guide: https://vimeo.com/797475870

If you are having difficulty brainstorming or connecting the advice from this post to your life, AI chats like duck.ai can help flesh out ideas.

And that's pretty much it! This advice is very generic to apply to as many people as possible, but if you follow these, you'll succeed in life.

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This guide assumes you are starting at the absolute bottom. Skip the steps that aren't applicable to you.

1. Find resources while homeless:

Research: Unfortunately, no research has been done on any programs at scale. Some 'housing first' organizations have shown promise, but there's very few across the country.

2. Find funded training for certifications in well-paying fields. (Varies by location.)

2a. Visit https://www.careeronestop.org/FindTraining/find-training.aspx

2b. Under 'Find Local Training', put your zip code and distance from the training program, then search.

2c. Check the box for 'WIOA-certified training programs only'.

2d. Some common certifications/sectoral jobs that MIGHT be well-paying (Varies by location. A lot. Choose a certification that makes the most sense in your area.):

  • CompTIA A+
  • CompTIA Network+
  • CDL (Commercial Driver’s License)
  • Pest Control Technician
  • CNC Machining
  • Diesel Mechanic
  • Welding
  • Supervisory Leadership
  • Phlebotomy
  • Certified Health Care Access Associate
  • Patient Care Assistant
  • State Tested Nurse Assistant (STNA)
  • Medical Billing & Coding (CPC)
  • IT Sector (Security+, Microsoft Certs)
  • Environmental Remediation (HAZWOPER)
  • Financial Services (FINRA Licenses)

Research: https://www.povertyactionlab.org/publication/sectoral-employment-programs-path-quality-jobs-lessons-randomized-evaluations

(WORK IN PROGRESS. UPDATING THIS POST LATER WHEN I'M FREE.)

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Some general suggestions and ideas for anyone who's willing to take them on or add onto:

There's not a one size fits all for everyone, and some of us can't afford much financially, so variation in stuff would be deeply appreciated, especially for us who have very neglected and uncared for disorders and life issues, or much heavier stuff in general.

Also some international resources are much needed, not all of us are from the US, let's not automatically assume everyone is from the same place, that's gonna leave out a lot of people (I know it's much easier to just default to one place, but if the priority here is helping others, then let's try to be as inclusive as possible).

Some stuff comes to mind: support groups or communities is one, a lot of us badly need support networks or groups to fall back on, safe spaces, private communities, places where we're understood and cared for, stuff like that, both online and irl. Maybe some matrix/simpleX/signal/discord groups to seek help and connections in? Definitely would be appreciated, keep the links alive, accessible, and active though so people don't miss out on the train if it starts.

Maybe some awareness posts or resources regarding the weaponisation of some mental health stuff against those in need, would definitely resonate with us who have trauma or dealt with abusive/narcissistic folks and the like. Some stuff for people more introverted or have severe anxiety is also much needed, not everybody has the courage to reach out publicly and risk further judgement and trauma.

Maybe some stuff for people who're lost in life or in need of genuine guidance? (Not the "self help" couch kind, that stuffs very predatory...) There's literally nothing for people who were raised like shit and are suddenly plunged into the world all on their own completely unprepared, or people still actively stuck in abusive relationships or households and have no way out on their own, or even people considering being adopted (as an adult), all of that is heavily neglected and uncared for, nobody ever talks about it so I feel like that should be addressed somewhat if possible, the more options for people to get the help that they actually need, the better.

List of reputable orgs and groups that can give good vetted referrals would be really handy, maybe some resources that ranks which countries care the most or least about mental health and minorities and the like as well, bring more awareness to countries that legitimately have nothing for those in need or are really bad at offering help.

Maybe some financial stuff too, things to help survive rough times and the like, maybe some institutions that help with job finding even? Especially for those who don't have any experience or are mentally/physically handicapped, not much out there for that.

Anywho, that's just some ideas, I'm no expert so feel free to do whatever with this!

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Guess I'll be the first one besides the owner to post here lol.

How's everybody doing as of late?